The Total Single

The Total Single

Wednesday, August 5, 2020


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Wednesday, June 24, 2020



There are so many things that I have learned, endured, enjoyed, & been blessed to know & experience in my almost 40 years of life! Here are just a few things that I know for sure in life: Serving God & fulfilling your purpose in life will be the only thing that truly fills you up & satisfies you! All things must be done for His Glory and then, it will work out for your good!

You must learn to forgive & heal so that you can move forward in life, “Don’t live bitter, but live Better!” You must realize that things/stuff, money, & wealth, are good, but great relationships will always be your greatest fortune in life!

You must have a heart of gratitude for all that you have & for that you will endure in life, no matter how bleak or dark life is there is always something to be Thankful for! You are always just one moment away from your greatest miracle & breakthrough! 

Happiness is not about a set of circumstances, but rather about your perspective/outlook & contentment. What you are going through will not last always, it has to come to an end & your blessings will come & it will all be worth it!

Encouraging yourself & others in the Lord will always bring about positive change in life & in theirs! Take time out to serve & give back to others! Live Life to the Fullest & Never Give Up On Your Dreams!

Prayer, Faith, Love, Worship, & the Word of God will always keep you in perfect peace, & keep your life in alignment with His will, & Joy in your heart!

Monday, June 1, 2020


Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it:  ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.”
Matthew 22:37-40 

And to love God with all the heart, with all the understanding, with all the soul, and with all the strength, and to love one’s neighbor as oneself, is more than all the whole burnt offerings and sacrifices.”
Mark 12:29-33

So he answered and said, “ ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind,’ and ‘your neighbor as yourself.’ ” And He said to him, “You have answered rightly; do this and you will live.”  Luke 10:27

If there is any other commandment, are all summed up in this saying, namely, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.
Romans 13:9-10

For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another!
Galatians 5:14-15

If you really fulfill the royal law according to the Scripture, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself,” you do well;
James 2:8 

Thursday, May 28, 2020

This Ministry/Series is for Every Marriage!

No matter if you find yourself at the greatest moment in your marriage, or at the lowest point & at the hardest place, or if you are separated, thinking about divorce, or in the process of getting a divorce! 

It’s also for those who are divorced, remarried, or in a blended family...No Matter where you are, you are not alone & we are here to help & give hope & insight!

Finally, it’s for Singles to help you prepare for the “realness” of marriage!


NO MATTER WHAT IS CAUSING YOUR VOW TO BREAK: Sin, Carnality, UnRepntance, Adultery, Abuse, Anger, Addiction, Abandonment, Apathy, Past Wounds, Conflict, Poor Communication, Money/Finances, a Sexless Marriage, Disagreements/Arguments, Negativity, Selfishness, Regret/Remorse, Poor Spirituality, Infertility, Mental Illness, a Chronic Sickness, Depression, Anxiety, Fear, Disappointment, Unhappiness, Neglect, Mistreatment, Brokenness, Bitterness, Mistrust, Lies/Dishonesty, Unforgiveness, Betrayal, Stress, Manipulation, Narcissism, Destructive Behaviors/Habits, a Bad Attitude, Resentment, Meanness/Unkindness, Frustration/Irritation, Hurt/Pain, Laziness/Slothfulness, Unrealistic Expectations, Unmet Needs, Disatisfaction, Incompatibility/Differences, Unfulfillment, a lack of Commitment, Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, Hatred, Offense, Pride, Dominance/Control Issues, Disrespect, Weariness/Tiredness, Busyness/Workaholism, Greed, or your In-laws, your kids, your family, your friends, or Mis-prioritization of your marriage.

Tuesday, March 3, 2020


Incorruptible Beauty! What does real beauty mean?

“Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be  the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4 NKJV

At this age, I have learned that beauty has to be beyond just having a pretty face. True beauty & essence is about having a “beautiful spirit” & how people feel when they are in your presence! I was blessed in my lifetime to be Homecoming Queen, & the first Black Woman to be crowned Queen of my college, in which I was featured in Ebony Magazine.

Knowing you are a Queen has nothing to do with looks, but rather your Character! 

“A crown doesn’t make you a queen, character does!”

I want to encourage single women today that your looks are not what is going to get or keep a man. Now he may approach you because of your looks, but he will only marry you or commit when there is something deeper. Don’t let culture make you obsessed with trying to be overly sexy, desperate for attention, or doing questionable things to get a man’s attention.

You have to know your beauty comes from within, the spirit of who you are as a woman & that you are fearfully & wonderfully made by God & that your soul knows this very well (Psalm 139).

Rather than seeking beauty choose the higher calling of being Virtuous! “For a virtuous woman is priceless & her husband’s heart will safely trust in her & her children will rise & call her blessed & praise her” (Proverbs 31)!

Being a beautiful wife is more about your gentle spirit & how you talk to, treat, respect, & serve your husband daily. Every man desires to be respected & he desires to trust his wife with vulnerability & knowing she won’t betray his trust! 

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord.”
Proverbs 18:22.

“Does your husband feel respected, does he trust you?” This is what is most important in a marriage & this is what makes a marriage beautiful!

“Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life”
(Proverbs 31:10-12).

Tuesday, February 25, 2020

2020 The Year of Me Turning 40!


I was born to unwed teenage parents, my mom was 16 & my dad was 19 when I was born. Even in the womb, the enemy was after my life because the enemy wanted my mom to abort me. Once she finally told her parents, my grandparents that she was pregnant, they told her no to an abortion & that they would help raise me! 

My grandmother left her job at the age of 46 years old & stayed home & raised me so that my mom could finish high school & later go on to graduate from nursing school!

Thank God for loving grandparents & for
God saving my life in the womb!
Because of shame my mom hid her pregnancy, by the time she went to the doctor, she was so far along & she had not gotten any prenatal treatment with me, that the doctor told her, “I would be retarded, & have learning/motor disabilities!”

The devil is a liar... not only was I born healthy, but I was blessed by God to excel academically all my life graduating with honors from high school, honors with my college degree, & honors with my Masters degree & I am also a published author!

I was born in the projects, but that never defined me. Being a product of unwed teen parents didn’t make me a statistic in my own life! The Bible says, “Despise Not the Days of Small Beginnings” (Zechariah 4:10)! It’s not how you begin, but rather it is the decisions that you make thereafter! 

You can still win even when you feel like
You have been dealt a losing hand in life!It’s a choice you have to make no matter what has happened in your life!

I was truly blessed as a child to be surrounded by so much love, affection, &
attention from both my mom’s side & my 
dad’s side of the family! I would not trade my life for anything in the world, not fame, fortune, or power because I had such a wonderful childhood filled with love.

I was not born under the Best circumstances, but my life & purpose has been shaped from my childhood & it has made Me into the woman I am today!

So I want to encourage you to stop living in the past & press forward into your future! You can’t give up now & turn back, you have to realize that yes bad things happened to you, but you don’t have to stay stuck in an unfulfilled life. The Choice is Yours! Stop blaming others for what has happened, God will handle all that, you must make up your mind that you won’t let what has been control your destiny!

The Bible says, “Better is the Ending of A Thing than It’s Beginning” (Ecclesiastes 7:8)! Your Latter & Ending will be Greater! You might not have had a decision in how your life started/began, but you do have a choice in where you go from here!

Sunday, February 9, 2020

2020 The Year of Me Turning 40!

I am beyond excited about turning 40 in the Year 2020! How amazing is that! God has done so much over my life & I am grateful for every mountain and for every valley! So through out this year, I want to share about these 40 (forty) years of my life in order to inspire & encourage others!


Most people don’t know that in the Fall of 2017, I received the most shocking & devastating news of my life! I was diagnosed with a severe heart condition/heart disease. I had to undergo an emergency heart procedure in order to save my life! Yes, I almost died had God not intervened & saved my life!

It has been & still is a hard road to recovery. Not only realizing that I had almost died from this condition, but just how much it has changed my whole life! 

There have been several hospital stays, countless tests, numerous medicines, & 4 (four) renowned Cardiologists working on my case who couldn’t even agree on a treatment plan to help me get better!

I have never heard such dire news of death from physicians in all my life. I would have to leave their offices with tears crying out to the Lord & proclaiming life over myself & my dreams that seemed to be on hold. I was never scared of dying, & I have not wavered in my faith one day that God has complete control & say over my body & health! His purpose for me is greater than my diagnosis.

After further research my Cardiologist has come to the conclusion that my condition at such a young age was due to genetics! It was hard to accept that the attack on my life from the enemy started long before me. God is so faithful that He keeps me alive despite the diagnosis & He is the one every day pumping my heart to work & sustain my life!

So that’s why making it to my 40th birthday means so much, because according to doctors I should not even be alive! I am a living miracle & testimony every day that I am alive as it relates to my heart! I have been declaring over my life every day that God will do a Miracle & “MAKE IT LIKE IT NEVER EVEN HAPPENED!”

Being so close to death made me really define what my Legacy would be, I simply want my life to be known that No Matter What, “Tashara Was A Woman Of Great Faith!” I pray that everyone I encounter would experience the love & joy of Jesus through me because of my faith in Him! That is what is most important to me in life!

I hope you feel encouraged today by my testimony if you have received news of a dire diagnosis, death of a loved one, a divorce, a job lay-off, depression, bankruptcy or whatever you may be struggling with! Know that God has you & he will see you through it no matter what!

Most people will look at me & say I had no idea of what you have gone through & what you are going through now, that’s all because I am allowing God to get the glory out of the situation! I’ve learned how to suffer with Grace, & that God is still sovereign, just, & fair, He still loves me & is for me, & that God has already worked it out in my favor! 

As I still wait on my Miracle of Total Healing, I am moving forward in God & trusting him no matter what!